Preschoolers' Status...

Status of a Preschooler

Who are Preschoolers?

 Children in between the age of 3 and 5 years are defined as Preschoolers. This is the fourth phase of entire 10 phases of life of a human being and also called as the Phase of Early-childhood.
Preschoolers’ Respective development in this phase :

• They start learning some common words according to mother and family members’ pronunciation.
• They start exploring their surroundings.
• Process of imitating adults’ behaviour gets fast.
• They complete their potty training and cleaning process.
•  They keep trying to be familiar with household properties and gadgets.
• They start learning alphabets.
• They Make demands for the things like; tricycle, bat-ball, doll, moving-toys etc.

Physical activity:

• They start walking, running, jumping and playing (under elders’ guidance); leaving their crawling back.
• They start asking about the things around them and what they have yet seen.
• Make question after questions, regularly.
• They do more than think.
• Start to communicate their feelings.

Preschoolers’ Feeding and food:

• They start eating everything what their parents take, normally.
• This phase of life needs complementary feeding and food arrangements.
• This age demands energy dense food which should be low in volume but high in energy with some added edible oils or fats. This age is called as the physical foundation phase of life because diet taken in this phase maintain their health for a long time.
• Milk, butter, fruits, green vegetable, cereals and grain-food are the main contents of a preschooler- meal.
• This age is fit starting taking, meat, eggs, fish etc. if they like to take.
• Their food supplements should be consistent and not unnecessarily diluted. They should be given complete diet how much the needed for.
• They require meals around 5 to 6 times a day but not less than 5 times.

Preschoolers’ protection needs:

• They mostly don’t care about verbal directions so they need extra attention when they are;
• Playing, running or walking independently.
• Standing on or crossing a busy road, any bridge or a narrow or deep area.
• They should be kept away from bathroom or any other deep water-filled area, electronic and electrical gadgets, heavy-weight equipments, any sharp or pointed thing or some things like these.
• Their toys and other equipments must be checked properly by the parents before providing them.
• They must not be out of sight even for a second; no matter they are sleeping or sitting on the floor having been cool.
• They should always be watched keeping them inside home and saving from misdealing of something which may harm them.
• They should not be permitted to practice any practice-based-activity like cycle-riding, swimming or hammering.
  

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Management of Teen-depression

Management of 

Teen-Depression

Depression itself:

 We can define depression as a stressed reactive-behaviour of a person when he or she is frequently suffering from a condition of high mental pressure and going through a lot of negative emotions or thoughts, at a time. Adults feel depressed for many reasons but their depression-levels can vary according to their ages, experiences and support system. But, at the same time, they mostly have some own pre-experienced ways to control their moods and feelings.

     On the other hand, depression of a teen or young adult is, generally, not recognized at initial level because it becomes often difficult for him to communicate his depression, directly ( as an adult communicates, openly). So, as a teen’s parent, you must be careful all about what is going in your teens’ minds and hearts, internally.

How can you recognize your teens’ depressions or the situations when they are about to be depressed?

Your teen is depressed or about to be depressed when;

• They are doing the things what they hate to do, normally.
• They are not taking interests doing or having what they like to do or have, in general.
• They look lazier or energy less.
• They are committing mistakes one after one, regularly.
• They are trying to keep them out of any common celebration, conversation or family enjoyment occasion.
• They are not taking any interest in other family member’s matters.
• They are looking confused and shy.
• They are missing maintaining their routine based works or breaking even general-discipline rules.
• They have started making more tantrums or get anger, easily.
• They are not getting usual interference with their daily activities.
• They are talking out of way and using threatening words.

Deep depression can show some other abnormal behavioural signs which are not seen, normally. Those can be as;

• They may threaten as to flee or to commit suicide or even to kill someone.
• They may be so week and silent in their expressions and feelings.
• They may be totally silent or highly aggressive as out of control.
• They can show new type of tantrums which have never seen before.

Helping teens for getting out of their depression:

         Your first and foremost duty is to be calm, co-operative and let your teen feel that you really love and care for them, much and more. Generally, depression is a result of many negative emotions and feelings. So, you cannot find out the main reason, at a time, when your teen is depressed. In such a situation, you must follow one-by-one system to enquire the whole situation.

            When your teen is depressed, it is better to go on through good support and motivation rather than operating his problems. In every interval (during the counseling), do nothing but try to make him believe that you are the first one who can save and help solving his all the problems, no matter what is the present one.

            You should involve your full attention and time when your teen is describing his problem or trying to, without any interruption. Encourage him when he gets cry or sob.

            Sometimes, some matters are difficult to describe before parents for teens, like their ‘painful triangle love-story’ or ‘one-sided first-love’. In these types of situations, you should let them believe that you will not make them ashamed, later.

            Sometimes, they deny getting help during the extreme depression conditions. You shouldn’t worry for these initial rejections. Keep trying to solve the problems. 

Let them know that ‘No one is perfect’ and ‘Being human is to commit error’. Use positive words and ways to support him as, “It’s not right to say…” in place of “you are saying wrong…” Share some personal positive views with them to relax them, soon.

Never try to ignore your teens’ depressions as if it happens in teen age.

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Preventing teens from Tobacco-addiction

Preventing Teens’ from 
Tobacco- addiction 

 During some recent years, smoking and chewing tobacco has been a part of our modern society. Smoking has been a part of many cultures in many countries and in many forms, for decades. But, now a days, tobacco-culture is spreading fast with some new means of intoxications as drugs, alcohol,  smack and so many others like these.

When a person is addicted to any form of intoxication, how many times he tries to satisfy himself, he needs bigger dose to satisfy his regular needs a day. So, it’s not easy to give up tobacco-habit (no matter in which form it is being taken) easily or suddenly without any assistance.

Considering these all situations, we should analyse first the impacts of tobacco in our bodies. During the last few years, some authentic researches have proved that all types of tobacco combinations are dangerous to health. It hampers not only our health maintaining factors but ruins our whole physical systems at different levels.

            Now, I don’t think right to convince you more about why you should save your teens from tobacco.

 Know the legal aspects of using tobacco products:

• There is no any safe level of using tobacco.
• All tobacco products are harmful at addiction level.
• According to Tobacco Control Act ( signed on June 2009 to regulate the manufacture, distribution and marketing to protect public health)  ), it is a social crime to show Tobacco products in front of (in display) any retail shop.
• It must not be sold to a person under 18 of his age. It is considered as an offence for anyone who lends or sells any tobacco product to a person under 18.
• Tobacco is a smooth killer.
• Using smoking in public places as a social crime, too. This act is punishable as well as a good sign of self-humiliation. 

When do teens start consuming tobacco products?

Teens normally become addicted to smoking or chewing tobacco, when;

• They are depressed, angry or de-motivated for a long time and suffering without counselling.
• The other family members are addicted and involve their teens to manage their addiction- doses. Like; a parent regularly calls out his teen to buy a cigarette-pack, daily.
• The teens have big surroundings of tobacco-addicted people.
•  They have not been taught about the consequences of effects of tobacco addiction.
• They are living alone without proper guidance.

          Teens are naturally curious and active. So, one of the most common reasons is, they indulge in addiction while experimenting new things, collectively.

 How to save your teens from tobacco:

           As a parent, your most important responsibility is to prevent your teens from taking their first dose of tobacco up to their 18 of age. After 18 years of age, chances of tobacco-addiction continuously decrease and after 30 years of age, if the life condition is normal, there is no chance of addiction. So, it is so easy to save your teens from any addiction until they have not tried for that.

            If you are addicted, avoid taking doses before your teens. Convey them, what problems you are facing due to your addiction. Teach your teens about the consequences of effects of tobacco and other intoxication, regularly.

            Be assured that they are surviving in normal conditions. Their peers are well behaved, manner-full and out of any intoxicated-addiction.

            Be an active part of their lives. Love them and care for their basic requirements. Support them to be healthy and wise. Share your experiences regarding your winning moments when you were much depressed, angry or sad.

   What can you do when they have been addicted?

• At first, do everything what you could have done to save them from the addiction. ( as mentioned  above)
• Don’t beat, torture or force them to quit just now.
• If your teen is suffering from any state of depression, try to overcome that.
• Teach them about the consequences of effects of tobacco addiction properly and help them to minimize their doses a day.
•  Counsel them for positive mind diversion. Make available some extra entertainment means for them.
• Motivate them to enjoy their hobbies.
• Correct their peer-pressure, if any.
• Promote them to spend their all time among family members.
• Your encouragements can help them a lot to change their bad habits.
• Believe in them. Keep saying the same, “you can do it”
• Get help from your spouse to convince them what you are saying is right. 
• When they have rejected their tobacco doses, keep trying to maintain their rejection at least for a month.

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Managing Teen-discipline

Managing Teen-discipline

Discipline for Teens:

A teen has always a lot of things to know, understand and learn. These all teens’ efforts need discipline. Discipline, itself, is a combination of different rules and commitments for an adult but for the teens, it is only a process of proper teaching, learning and guidance through the parents. Discipline teaches the teens what is right or wrong to do and; why and how they should do that. Thus, the discipline is just to enable them to have a clear vision for what they do or think for.

Why do the teens break discipline?

1. First and foremost reason is that they are children, ultimately.
2. They have not yet observed the right way how to perform, correctly.
3. If, they have not been guided, taught or/ and motivated, properly.
4. When, the parents are more aggressive and tempered and rule over them in authoritarian style.
5. When, the teen is continuously anger, afraid or discouraged.
6. When, the parents do not share their active time with their teens.
7. When, the teens are ignored defining rules for in and out of home which is mostly done by the parents.
8. When, they are not given any choice or option to go on.
9. When the parents ignore dealing the consequences and facts, what the teens want to do or going to do about. Dealing consequences is always fruitful for the parents because it provides the teen clear visions which motivate them for self discipline.
10. When, teens’ overall problems are not discussed and settled in time. 
11. When, parents don’t value their words or commitments and even they speak lies.
12. If, It is going something wrong with teens out of home and parents are effortless to know so they are unaware.
13. When a teen has a lot of limitations with unknown reasons.
14. When, the parents behave impractically and get always out of logic.
15. When, the teens are made ashamed in front of third person.

Effective ways to keep your teens disciplined:

• Firstly, a parent should know all about discipline.
• Parents should not force or compel their teens to follow everything what they say or direct. Dealing consequences is important here with healthy discussion. The discussion with teens always should take place when the teens are calm and in submissive mood.
• Parents should not lead their teens, unnecessarily. They should always support teens to perform their maximum routine work, independently. And, when they commit mistakes, this is the most appropriate time to guide and teach them what is right and what is wrong.
•  Parents should always offer the participation of their teens while deciding any limit or rule for them. Participation of teen is must forming acceptable boundary and limits.
• Parents should provide some alternate options or choices for teens whenever they are supposed doing the same as directed by the parents.
• Setting teens’ day to day problems is a parent’s most important responsibility. (Which may be of many types or in many levels)? If a parent does not solve or have time to solve these problems timely, it promotes a lot of in-disciplinary acts of teens.         
• Every parent should promote an ideal communication system among all family

  

  Ideal communication system

  members where all should be given the rights to convey their ideas, thoughts and suggestions to improve the family environment solving family’s day to day problems.
• Every parent ought to lead an ideal relation with his/ her spouse. Bad spouse’s relation crashes the whole disciplinary bindings of the family.
• Every parent loves their kids, similarly but a parent should deal with his/ her every child according to their inherent nature and feelings. An extrovert child is seen more disciplined but an introvert child keeps himself more disciplined.
• Parents must have some proper short term and long term plans that how they have to guide and teach their teens and deal their problems in any defined or expected situation.

  Six common but most effective tips for you keeping everything under discipline:

1. Be always positive and open minded.
2. Deal your kids considering the fact that they are not child for all time.
3. They have no any secondary parent to save them when you say- “I don’t care”.
4. Developing your kids up to their independence is more important than bearing and nurturing them, only.
5. Be more responsible to keep your kids responsible.
6. Value your each commitment.

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Teen-tantrum Management

Teen-tantrum Management

Defining all-age kids' tantrums, thoroughly:

In fact, Anger and Tantrum are mostly the co-relative reactive behaviour of a child. Both take place when they are depressed, irritated or suffering from any negative emotion or thought .But, the angers of the children generally show their aggressions over their silent depressions or irritations where as the tantrums show their depressions or irritations directly, where they show, generally, their weakness or sadness. In other words, an angry child shows his aggressions more and a child in tantrums looks poor, feared, depressed, sadly or even anger mixed.

Teen-tantrums:        

  When the teens cannot do what they want, they feel frustrated. And, when the same conditions exit for a long time, they release their frustrations through tantrums. As a Teen-parent, you must know this fact, too, that the tantrums are mostly the part of preschoolers or school-ers  communications. Teens mostly show anger rather than tantrums. When they are prevented from having or doing what they want to, they show tantrums but not without arguments. So, the teen-tantrums may be the cause of physical check-ups when it continues with older teens.

Major reasons:

• When the teens feel very bad and have a lot of negative emotions, at the same time.
• When they are restricted to have or to do something and they feel right to.
• When they are pressurized going out of their comfortable zones.
• When their good deeds are not praised or appreciated, openly.
• When they live or spend their most of time, alone or their parents don’t spend their active time with them.
• When they live lives without variations and alternatives.
• When they are forced to do what they don’t like.
• When a parent has a lot of- ‘No’s
• When, they are unable to express their angers due to fear or self-guilt feeling.
• When, they need extra attentions of their parents.
• They show sometimes a ‘blasted-tantrum’ when they are totally unable to control their feelings. This is nothing but a blasting of their patience, actually.

How can you check your teens' tantrums?

• Don’t shout at, cry or threaten your teens when your teens are in tantrums.
• Be polite and calm while handling your teen-tantrums.
• Avoid reasoning and heavy conversation when they are in tantrums.
• If your teen looks sad, upset, depressed or frustrated, try to make them easy and comfortable first but without any argument or heavy or hot discussions.
• Afterwards, when they get easy and calm, try to enquire the problem and the reasons behind it. When all is well at home, try to understand what may go wrong outside home. Don’t show your aggression while talking to them. Your tempered words can hide the real situations or things.
•  Analyzing the situation, take some initiatives to make their normal lives happy and cool. You must manage some cool discussions with your teens on different family matters, time to time to avoid their tantrums.
• The most effective way keeping your teen tantrum-free is to spend some definite relaxed time with them, regularly. Occasionally, if you have to avoid your important work to do so, it does not matter. Keeping your full family happy, cheerful and relaxed needs some valuable in-puts.
• Be a good listener for your teens. Never ignore their gabbling what they make in between their tantrums. It may give you some good ways to avoid the conditions in which they collect their aggressions or frustrations.
• Let them feel your teens that you love and care for them so much for all time when they are closed to you.

Eleven most essential measures to avoid your teens' tantrums?

1. Try to keep them healthy and peaceful, always.
2. Try to add something new always to build up their good manners and character.
3. Deal them with dignity and respect.Correct yourself first before correcting them.
4. Be an active part of your teen's life and interests.
5. Never miss dealing the consequences for what they want to do or to have or to go with.
6. Don’t punish them when they have reasons to get out from.
7. Don’t over rule over your kids.
8. Don’t compromise with evil habits of your children in the beginning.
9. Never teach them wrong for others. It works as a Boomerang in future.
10. Be practical, open minded, and try to keep yourself up-to-date, in the society.

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