Five major factors which restrict our children to achieve great success
The success is not a measurement of an achievement; it’s just a realization of our findings including purpose, value and satisfaction. So a survival without purpose and satisfaction is not more than succeeding a survival which doesn't matter the quality of it. Is it a real success? I think, No! Now the question is, what exactly do you want for your kids? A success like a survival in common or a success which adds great value, purpose and satisfaction in life. Please observe these factors given below and think what exactly you can do for your loving kids.
1. Fatalistic approach of the parents:- Fatalistic people are the people who don’t believe in preparation to apply factors but believe in results which is pre-decided by their destiny. They believe what they get and what they don’t is their fate. So, they accept everything or don’t reject anything because what they have got is their luck, again. It is whether a pleasure or a pain, according to them, they are not responsible for this outcome. So, the fatalistic people work, walk and lay as their horoscopes say.
Ultimately if these people are the parents, the situation is out of imagination. Of course they do a lot for their kids but what is done is by the fate. So, if there is something missing is not being missed by him but it’s just due to bad fate, that’s all. This situation creates a lot of hurdles for the kids to cross over and to achieve their dreams.
2. Ignorance of the natural qualities of a child:- forcing children to work against their natural abilities is totally a snatching of their happiness and peace, until they are alive.
People believe that the most successful people are the extraordinary people and have extraordinary abilities. Surprisingly, it’s not right. Success doesn’t mean the presence of extraordinary people with extra abilities. It just means a common man with his natural abilities with right efforts.
Is having a harmonium a guaranty to become a great singer? I don’t think so. A harmonium may be a necessary instrument for the person, who has a great sense of music and he wants to practice it. But a person who has not ability to make music, what can he do if he has even a dozen of harmoniums.
So, parents must keep in their mind when they are trying to do something for their kids’ career that all big attempts to win start with the practice of one’s natural skills which become stronger when practiced well and make the person happy and satisfied well when carried on in their professional life. Now, its your choice what you want to do with your loving kids. Just break off your rigid plans which you have made for your loving child. Watch and observe his/her best quality support them as much you can. This is the secret of big success of every man.
3.Parents impractical approach:- People’s impractical approach mainly refers their innocent impracticable thought, action and behaviour, which are mostly imitated and stress- less. Surprisingly, these kind of people are found everywhere in every class and community. Some best remarks of these people are, they are uncomfortable, dissatisfied and mostly rejected by others. They don’t have their clear-cut conceptions and belief, because they are the best imitators. And, all these happen due to their lack of experience, education and environment. Poor traditions, beliefs and different attitude are also responsible for this behaviour.
In such a situation when kids have impractical parents, they are mostly uncomfortable, confused and unable to decide what they should do and what not. Is it a right circumstance to do something great? No chance!
4. Case of an introvert and creativeness:- We all know about the two basic types of personality of a man as Extrovert and Introvert. Extrovert people are energetic and frequent people. They take interest everyone and talk more than listen. They are enthusiastic and much comfortable around the people.
On the other hand, the introvert people are the most silent figures around the people because they just prefer being on their own. They are the most imaginative, creative and artistic figures who can’t work without their heart and soul.
What I mean to say here that we may have the kids of both the personalities but it becomes harder to guide an introvert kids. Because, they are very clear- cut reactor, truth- speaker, rigid and have depth of knowledge of things in comparison to extrovert ones. And the most important thing is that these silent kids are all time engaged in doing something differently and creating something new. Where the extrovert kids try to do and evaluate everything, the introvert kids never or hardly break their limitations and go out of their mental zone.
So, it becomes a big responsibility of a parent to recognize the personality of their all kids well. Of course most of the parents try to take care and guide their all kids, but they must be aware especially about their introvert kids because they require less but different and perfect treatment than others. Accordingly, you must know this fact too, that the introvert kids are the real people of name and fame and new creation or inventions but if these kids are misguided or mistreated, they become completely unable to do something even for their general survival. The reason is again clear that they hardly go out of their limitations. So, if you are a parent just recognize their nature first, if any of them is an introvert, what you have to do, you know better now.
5. Demotivated kids : - in fact all kids are same and all can do better if they are sparked by proper motivation at the right time and in the right direction. Unfortunately, it’s not common in practice. In fact, not to motivate the children due to lack of knowledge and experience is a neutral situation where the parents are needed to be motivated to motivate their kids but they can’t be blamed as a bad parent. Parents of this group collect gradual experience and knowledge and proceed one step forward, whenever inspired.
Motivated kids are not rare but are less than not motivated kids. Here the parents are conscious and aware where everything as sharing time, loving, hugging, caring, communicating, guiding or behaving include attitude of motivation of parents. It works greatly for kids to go on and on.
Now the most important part of this discussion where the kids are neither motivated without intention nor intentionally. And the extreme bad condition is that they are demotivated. Here demotivation refers everything as avoiding, ignoring, neglecting complaining, criticizing, comparing from others, being demanded, misinterpreting or demoralizing the kids by the parents. Now you have to think over the situation that some parents become failure to sacrifice their everything to make their kids successful enough then what to say about these ‘c’ grade parents who, unwillingly, demotivate their children in place of giving good inspiration.
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