13 February 2014

Parents' major responsibilities...


Parents’ Mandatory, Basic and Specific Responsibilities for the child.
In common, a parent is an adult person who is either the biological mother or father or has adopted any child with legal references. In fact the parenting process is itself a big responsibility for a parent and it includes everything which converts a child in to a good, healthy- wealthy and a happy person in and out of home.
 We can divide a parent’s responsibilities in to three basic categories; these are as Mandatory, Basic and Specific responsibilities of a parent.
1. Parents’ mandatory responsibilities (resp.) include primary resp. of the parents for which they are legally instructed and bounded to perform with their all available resources and skills for their kids.
As much as I have come to know from various sources, the eight primary resp. of a parent are as follows:-
1. They provide food and shelter.
2. They provide protection and security.
3. They provide name with social recognition.
4. They provide financial support.
5. They provide education.
6. They provide sufficient knowledge to adopt various beliefs.
7. They bear, nurture and comply.( bearing a child is sometimes not necessary as in adoption case.)
8. They have right intention to take care.
2. Parents’ basic responsibilities include nothing more than their mandatory responsibilities, It just includes some possible arrangements and efforts of parents, by which their mandatory resp. are fulfilled properly and effectively. Suppose, educating a child is a mandatory resp. of a parent, the basic resp. of a parent includes here an extra and effective effort to get their child educated, properly.
 3. Specific responsibilities are, in fact, the extension and integration of the primary resp. of the parents. Some most extensions and integrations of the parents are as follows.
a) Providing home and shelters with proper arrangements.
b) Providing healthy food, drinking water, sufficient wearing, essential accessories and gadgets. 
c) Providing protection from various diseases with proper health-care and Medicare.
d) Providing sufficient arrangements for study, rest, refreshment, and, entertainment & rewards. 
e) Solving their mental, physical, and psychological problems at the all age level (up to the age until they become adults and independent.
f) Fulfilling their urgent needs and requirements.
g) Providing mental, physical and social security.
h) Providing regular education with moral and ethical education.
i) Helping to adopt social, spiritual and religious beliefs.
j) Setting the deadlines of the freedom and restrictions.
k) Sharing experience and thoughts to make them experienced and mature.
l) Controlling and directing them to lead and keep them in the right direction.

m) Deciding what’s essential and what to ignore to keep them on right track, intentionally.
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10 February 2014

Can parenting be...Stress-less?

Can parenting be…Stress-less?

            In fact, becoming a parent is the easiest job of a normal human being but the most crucial part of this happening is to bear the responsibilities of a parent. Therefore, the situation starts going out of control when the parents are not so experienced and full of practical knowledge and approach. Please don’t get me wrong.

 Someone may know the skills of parenting without becoming a parent but to learn how to parent is possible only after becoming a parent.

            So, being a parent, you too, can understand and improve your parenting skills and remove your errors and stress in time considering some suggestions, given bellow:

  • Deal your child to keep a child inside yourself. Sometimes, just go out of your disciplinary boundary and let your child sought, quarrel and laugh as much as they can (but in the controlled manner). Let yourself laugh when things you try don’t go exactly as planned for your kids.

  • Don’t try to follow you daily routine, strictly, everyday. Make your routine flexible (changed even) when you need by heart to change. It really makes you relax to act and react for your kids.

  • Including your all duties, have a special duty to play with your kids becoming a kid for some time.
  • Don’t overrule your kids or yourself. Be flexible while paying your responsibilities.
  • Whenever you feel over tense, enjoy your hobby or spend some time with your friends.
  • Don’t try to earn that money which is earned on the base of breaking all the relations and peace of life and which causes making someone sick before time and spent then to treat the life, alive. I mean a live on pills.
  • Of course, money is important for life to survive but survival of a human being is much and much more than survival. That more than survival is the actually stress-less.
  • Experience the joys of seeing and feeling your children to grow and develop.
  • Keep consistency in your behaviour and action with your kids.
  • Don’t avoid listening to your kids whether their words are important or not but the most important thing is to listen them, ultimately.
  • Learning how to parent involves considerable trial and error. Therefore, parents should be open to learn how to improve their parenting skills usually become better parents over the course of time.
  • Stress-less parenting requires good relation with spouse. Weak spouse’s relation hampers family-support system.
  • In spite of labouring hard to making your kids, ideal kids, try your best yourself to be an ideal parent for your kids.
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Correcting Kids' Behaviour




Correcting Kids’ Behaviour

 What do the parents expect?
Kids are normally expected to behave well in all conditions. Parents want to keep their kids well mannered and disciplined, all time. This is the reason that is why the kids are essentially punished everywhere almost in all families. Most of the parents believe that every child must learn right from wrong and develop his/ her ability to face wrong to be right.
            Parents generally expect from their young kids that they should respect their parents and elders in all conditions, always. They should be polite, obedient and attentive enough to follow their parents’ directions and views. Unfortunately, these expectations break in due to one sided attempts. And, when the parents observe their kids going through quite differently, they get annoyed and embarrassed.
            On the other hand, the children do not usually mischief or misbehave to harass the parents. Their tantrums, shouting or negligence-attitude have some essential reasons behind their negative behaviour. They may be upset, anxious, angry or depressed doing so. And, when they are punished in these situations, they are unwillingly provoked to behave, negatively. The conditions can be 100% same if the kids are teens.

How can you support your teens to behave well?
who is misbehaving here...? 
As a parent, you must know this fact, at first, punishing the kids regularly make them continuously rude and hard to behave with. And, it is only you who can find better ways avoiding these situations. You can check up these useful guidelines to guide and encourage your all-age kids to improve their complete behaviour (specially your teens’ behaviour).
You will definitely be able to improve your kids' behaviour following these guidelines.
What you should do:
  1. Improve and maintain good communication system among all family members: The condition, when all have chance to communicate their views and have patience to listen to all, leads a good communication system in a family. A parent has to have all the information up-to-date to guide better their kids and it needs proper communication. Every parent should use proper words, time, situation, expression and link to communicate their mature-like teens. Sometimes, changing the tone of voice is enough to make the kids aware or to improve the situation.
  2. Let your kids enjoy when they are needed for: Many parents don’t care about the mood and circumstances in which their kids need some enjoyable moments or some of them try to control their playing or enjoying time through remote control rather than providing them good time. It affects much on their performance and behaviour. It does not matter how much extra time they have played or enjoyed themselves but how much energetic and active they are for the next, does matter, definitely. I hope you will not commit the same mistake for your kids.
  3. Let them feel independence: Managing over-discipline and hard and fast rules is also a major factor of annoyed and undisciplined kids. Over limits and boundaries provoke kids pushing against their limitations. Positive parenting includes right but flexible and appreciable limitation. Regulating Democratic style parenting is necessary to improve your kids’ behaviour.  Kids recognize their world normally by touching, looking at, shaking, tasting and even by eating the things where as the teens keep doing some new experiments. The important part of parenting is to push them against their boundaries to becoming an adult. So, Parents should let their kids feel independence up to the level where they are comfortable to do the things what they can.
  4. Your rules and limitations should be clearly defined: Accepting good behaviour by kids requires clearly defined rules and boundaries for them. If parents’ behaviours are not consistent or both the parents and kids are not agreed to follow the rules or the mother and father are differ in their views; these are the conditions when the decided rules and limitations are ignored or rejected by the kids. So, kids’ rules should be simple, clear, well defined but should not be hurdle-like. One most effective rule of a parent is to say stable “No” but it works only when the parent understands the depth of this expression otherwise this ‘No’ is proved useless.
  5. Praise your kids when they are praiseworthy: Most of the parents focus to correcting their kids misbehaves. They ignore watching their kids unless they commit any mistake. On the other hand, kids need to feel their parents’ love and attention towards them. So, a parent should not only be conscious to correct their kids but also give them lots of praise when they do something good or praiseworthy. But, these rewards must be paid in form of positive motivation and encouragements rather than giving them any gift item or thing.
  6. Let them take some decisions, themselves: You will have heard this add-line, “an idea can change one’s whole life.” The depth of this saying is nothing but to be able to take an awesome decision. Taking good decision is always a difficult part to move on, correctly for all. So, every parent should encourage their kids (according to their age and related task) to take some decisions, themselves. Teens’ self-decision make them more responsible and active to follow their own parts.
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8 February 2014

Schoolers' Status


Schoolers’ Status

Who are Schoolers?
The children in between the age of 5 years (onwards) and 12 years are classified as Schoolers. This is the fifth phase of entire 10 phases of life of a human being and also known as the phase of Late-childhood or Pre-teen age. This phase transforms a young child in to a young adolescent.

Respective Development:
  • They are fun-seekers and perform themselves mostly to get pleasure.
  • They are able to communicate their emotions and thoughts but week in logic, so; need regular emotional support.
  • They keep on practising new things to learn new skills.
  • They mostly have over activities, mischief and tantrums.
  • Start to connect with their qualities and discover hobbies.

Emotional Development:
  • Pre-teens demand for less limitations yet need unwilling-full emotional support.
  • They are much active to manage their peers’ relationship.
  • Look conscious to avoid mistakes.
  • Make over-reactions and feelings.
  •  Age of understanding life-skills like; good manners, etiquette and self-discipline.
  •  They start learning new words and improve their communication skill.

 Parents’ support:
  • Pre-teens need much assistance of their parents because they are in phase of rapid emotional and physical changes.
  • They are always ready to experiment on and learn new things, so they are always needed for calm, cool and democratic parenting support of their parents.
  • Pre-teens actually have many good ideas about how to deal with problems and their responsibilities but they don’t know the perfect ways to act upon. The parents are responsible here to resolve their problems and make them learn new skills.
  • Pre-teens have already started schooling so they are needed for a lot of parental arrangements and duties.
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5 February 2014

Preschoolers' Status...



Status of a Preschooler

 Who are Preschoolers?
 Children in between the age of 3 and 5 years are defined as Preschoolers. This is the fourth phase of entire 10 phases of life of a human being and also called as the Phase of Early-childhood.
Preschoolers’ Respective development in this phase :
  • They start learning some common words according to mother and family members’ pronunciation.
  • They start exploring their surroundings.
  • Process of imitating adults’ behaviour gets fast.
  • They complete their potty training and cleaning process.
  •  They keep trying to be familiar with household properties and gadgets.
  • They start learning alphabets.
  • They Make demands for the things like; tricycle, bat-ball, doll, moving-toys etc.
Physical activity:
  • They start walking, running, jumping and playing (under elders’ guidance); leaving their crawling back.
  • They start asking about the things around them and what they have yet seen.
  • Make question after questions, regularly.
  • They do more than think.
  • Start to communicate their feelings.
Preschoolers’ Feeding and food:
  • They start eating everything what their parents take, normally.
  • This phase of life needs complementary feeding and food arrangements.
  • This age demands energy dense food which should be low in volume but high in energy with some added edible oils or fats. This age is called as the physical foundation phase of life because diet taken in this phase maintain their health for a long time.
  • Milk, butter, fruits, green vegetable, cereals and grain-food are the main contents of a preschooler- meal.
  • This age is fit starting taking, meat, eggs, fish etc. if they like to take.
  • Their food supplements should be consistent and not unnecessarily diluted. They should be given complete diet how much the needed for.
  • They require meals around 5 to 6 times a day but not less than 5 times.
Preschoolers’ protection needs:
  • They mostly don’t care about verbal directions so they need extra attention when they are;
  • Playing, running or walking independently.
  • Standing on or crossing a busy road, any bridge or a narrow or deep area.
  • They should be kept away from bathroom or any other deep water-filled area, electronic and electrical gadgets, heavy-weight equipments, any sharp or pointed thing or some things like these.
  • Their toys and other equipments must be checked properly by the parents before providing them.
  • They must not be out of sight even for a second; no matter they are sleeping or sitting on the floor having been cool.
  • They should always be watched keeping them inside home and saving from misdealing of something which may harm them.
  • They should not be permitted to practice any practice-based-activity like cycle-riding, swimming or hammering.
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